Habits We Use to Avoid Healing and Growth

All healing occurs first at the level of the mind. Our mind is the vantage point from which we interpret life and create our own meaning. In order to heal the mind, we must first be able to access it, a task which is easier said than done. 

The problem is, we actively fill our lives with habits that help us avoid paying attention to the thoughts and feelings which rest in our minds. These mindless activities serve as a distraction to our ability to connect with our inner-self. Through my own pursuit for happiness and connection to higher consciousness, I’ve become more and more aware of the seemingly minor things we all do to avoid being mindful. While this is by no means a comprehensive list, these are the major areas I have become aware in my own life:

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You Are Enough

“You are important for who you are; not what you do, how much money you make, or what title you have;” the words rolled off my tongue effortlessly and honestly as I spoke with a friend on the phone this week. I truly meant it, but sat in slight shock after hanging up the phone reflecting on how many times this lesson had appeared for me this week. The irony in this moment being that I had gone from student to teacher. It's pretty wild and beautiful, really. 

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Be Willing

The last couple of months have been a little bit of a roller coaster. I’ve had awesome opportunities for growth come my way professionally, personally, financially, romantically, spiritually - you name it. Although there are always lessons to be learned, those that have been presented to me in the past few months have been particularly amazing and synchronistic. I’ve embraced each one as a powerful opportunity for growth. Yet, these past few months have been some of the most challenging I’ve faced. I’ve been challenged to think differently when I craved the comfort of familiarity; to speak my truth when silence would have been easier; to make myself vulnerable when I desperately feared pain; to be curious when I most wanted to retreat; to be forgiving when many would choose anger; to be patient when I yearned to intervene; to see possibility when I am being presented with problems.

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Single and Self-Aware

How Looking Within Drastically Changes the Dating Game

They say one of the first steps to finding love is to first know and love yourself. I completely agree: Successful relationships are not born out of two people trying to complete themselves or find the love they lack in another. However, as a single lady who has done a lot of work on the self-love and personal growth fronts; I can attest that increasing your self-awareness and emotional intelligence actually adds a new and unexpected challenge to the already complex world of dating. While being self-aware and growth-minded is absolutely a positive attribute, here are a few of the unique challenges you might face out on the modern dating scene:

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Embracing the Power to Let Go and Choose Again

It’s the eve of my thirty-second birthday; a perfect time to sit and reflect about how I’ve grown not only in this past year, but in the last thirty-two years as a whole. I hope I say this every year at this time - I never thought I’d be where I am right now. I’m filled with so much gratitude for the lessons and growth life has brought me. There is really a lot to be excited about, yet I am overcome with a sense of peace...a sense that I am exactly where I am supposed to be. Every triumph, every tear, every sad day, every hard conversation, every beautiful experience...they’ve all led up to this moment. I’ve worked hard to have these moments of serenity and clarity (though they are sometimes fleeting amidst a world of chaos and distraction), but when they come, I embrace them fully.

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The Relationship Manifesto that Got Me Thinking

I sat down to write this evening pretty certain about the topic I was going to riff on. I sat with my fingers perfectly positioned on the keyboard, but the words weren’t coming. So, I took a break...which is when I saw this Jay Shetty performance piece based on an article by Krysti Wilkinson called We Are the Generation That Doesn’t Want Relationships. I’m almost certain I’ve seen the video before, but I watch it again anyway. The performance is catchy, the words are eerily accurate

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All the Little Things I'm Doing to Love Myself This Month

This week, I’ve sat down several times to write about relationships, self-love, romantic love...all the little topics that you see scrolling through your newsfeed during the month of February. Truthfully, I have so many thoughts on these topics that I want to share (stay tuned) that I barely knew where to start. I wanted to write about the beauty of being single, the struggle dating as a self-aware person, turning fear into love, releasing romantic illusions, transforming relationships, self-love (SO MUCH SELF LOVE), holding space for others, finding romance in your everyday life, how romantic partners can be our best teachers, how we misuse relationships...my list goes on an on.

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Advice, Opinions, and your Inner Guide

A while back, I wrote a post about my frustrations with friends giving unsolicited advice. The trouble is, I realized recently that it’s not uncommon for us to solicit - even poll our friends for - advice on topics where we should really be turning to our inner guide. Oddly enough, solicited advice can be just as frustrating or confusing as receiving advice that you never asked for in the first place.

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The Simple (Yet Powerful) Act of Showing Up

At one point in my late 20s, I was part of a group of young professionals being recognized by a local lifestyle magazine. As part of the recognition, there was a social get together for all of the honorees, their friends, family, and colleagues. I was honored that several of the members of the executive team from our company attended the event, including the company CEO. While I consider him one of my mentors, he was also a pretty prominent member of the business community and a fairly high-demand guy. It meant so much to me that he would even attend my little event. I left that night feeling truly appreciated. It wasn’t until weeks later, when I was visiting with a friend who was also honored at the event, that I was able to fully soak in the power of someone showing up.

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Quotes from my 2018 Writing Retreat

Earlier in the week, I shared how hanging with my ladies writing group has brought me personal fulfillment and growth. At our recent retreat, a weekend event we’ve enjoyed for the last two years, we each produced writing on various personal growth and spiritual development topics. I am always learning from these ladies...and I know they’re learning from me too.

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How we Let our Fears Limit Us

I woke up several times last night with something weighing heavy on my heart. Fear. Not my personal fear, necessarily, but the fear we all experience subconsciously. Fear that we avoid at all costs. I'm not talking about the fear of heights or small spaces. No, I'm talking about the fear that creeps in when we aren't paying attention. The fear which limits us and holds us back from having the things that will ultimately bring us joy. What I’ve learned recently is that it goes back to an interesting concept called “Upper Limit Problems.” 

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An Evening with Marianne Willamson

My Top Quotes from The LOVE AMERICA TOUR

Recently, I had the great pleasure of hearing renowned metaphysician, self-help author, and powerhouse speaker Marianne Williamson give a talk in my hometown of Austin, Texas. I’ve devoured Marianne’s books and talks for several years - she is someone I admire and appreciate for both her spiritual and intellectual contributions to the world. While Marianne would say that the light I admire in her is merely a reflection of my own light; I couldn’t help but feel a little like a fangirl as she took the stage as part of her Love America tour, aimed at encouraging the spiritual community to get involved in political conversations and causes.

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Why Hanging Out With Wiser Women Has Been Good for My Soul

Nearly two years ago, I apprehensively joined a women’s writing group. The group, actually part of a faith-based ministry, was meant to be an outlet for women to explore soul-conscious topics together. I was invited by a friend and mentor who knew my love for writing and deep thinking; and also knew it wasn’t being fulfilled. At first, I was the youngest member by nearly two decades, the eldest member being 45 years my senior. I feared we might have little in common. I wondered if they would take me seriously, that I would have trouble being vulnerable and writing from my heart. The truth is, I've always been an old soul, so the Universe could not have brought me into a better group of wise, caring women.

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Wired for Connection

Wired for Connection

Cutting the Cord on Technology and Focusing on Real Life Connections

I was talking with one of my closest friends the other day about how she was struggling to form real connections and friendships after a recent move. She’d been trying to double dip and start friendships with ladies in her industry; which wasn’t working out. She also shared how she was a member of several local industry groups on Facebook, but wanted to leave them because they took up too much time, were full of drama, and weren’t helping her to develop any real life friendships. In fact, if anything, the online scene was creating a false sense of camaraderie with some...and discouraging her from ever wanting to associate with others.

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My Home Gym Must-Haves

I’ve been loyal to my gym for over a year now, but I used to be an avid home workout gal. While I’ve paired down my home gym collection over the years, I keep enough around that I can grab a quick workout at home when needed. Here are my must haves for a home gym (especially if you’re working with limited space).

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Sober In Austin: My Top Picks for Mocktails and Fun Non-Alcoholic Drinks

Sober In Austin: My Top Picks for Mocktails and Fun Non-Alcoholic Drinks

I’ve lived in Austin since the Fall of 2015 - it’s a vibrant city known for its funky, eclectic (and sometimes super weird) culture. The city has a little of something for everyone - especially when it comes to great restaurants and nightlife. As one of the nation's fastest growing cities, a host to two major festivals, and a frequent destination for bachelor/bachelorette parties; it isn’t too difficult to find a place to grab a good cocktail in Texas’ capital city. Finding a great spot that offers alcohol-free options that go beyond “virgin” cocktails (which is actually code for club soda and syrup) is a bit of a different story.

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How A Year Without Booze Helped Me Live A More Meaningful & Fulfilling Life

How A Year Without Booze Helped Me Live A More Meaningful & Fulfilling Life

Today is the day - my 365th consecutive day without a single drop of alcohol. No cheat days, no “tastes,” nothing. I’ve written a lot about being sober. A LOT. In fact, if you’ve milled around my blog much, you’d probably think that it was a blog about sobriety, or being in recovery, but it’s not. When I started this blog, the intention was to share my own path to finding a more meaningful life - a life where I felt deeply connected to myself, spirit, and those around me; a life where I allow myself to shine and encourage others to do the same.

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The One Reminder you Need to Help Process Fear-Based Thinking in Others

For the longest time, I lived with a fear- or lack-based mentality. There was never enough to go around - be it money, jobs, love/romance, opportunity, etc.. When I lived in that mentality, it became my reality. I’d attract or anticipate lack or disappointment in every area of my life, always waiting for the worst possible outcome to surface - often, I’d attract just that.

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Dry January Prep

Dry January Prep

7 Pro Tips to Make Your Break from Booze a Success

Committing to staying sober for 30 consecutive days may seem like a lifetime - especially as your friends continue about their lives (or maybe worse, commit to Dry January and fall off the wagon a few days in!). Changing your own habits when others around you are not can be very challenging. However, I can promise - from personal experience - that completing a sober stretch will be extremely rewarding. I completed Dry January in 2017 (which inevitably led to a longer sober stretch for me personally) and have several pro tips to help you make your month without alcohol a huge success. Approaching this challenge with the right mentality and tools is the best way to set yourself up for success.

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What Didn't Serve Me in 2017

In my last post, I wrote about several things I accomplished in 2017 that made me feel like a real badass. While that feeling runs pretty strong, the are - of course - some things I did in 2017 that did not serve me (mostly old habits, etc.). They say one of the best ways to focus on what you want - or what you want to let go of, for that matter - is to write it down. So let’s get to it, here are the things that did not serve me in 2017:

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