In my last post, I wrote about several things I accomplished in 2017 that made me feel like a real badass. While that feeling runs pretty strong, the are - of course - some things I did in 2017 that did not serve me (mostly old habits, etc.). They say one of the best ways to focus on what you want - or what you want to let go of, for that matter - is to write it down. So let’s get to it, here are the things that did not serve me in 2017:
Avoiding stillness. While I’m a proponent of self-care, I don’t often take the steps to fully recharge when I’m feeling well...let alone when I’m stressed, overwhelmed, or drained. This is bad. Really bad. Especially when my other options are to keep super busy or obsess over what I'm stressed about.
It’s best that we learn to recharge when times are good, so that we can find our center more quickly when times are bad. When I take the time to recharge, I feel better and can find my way back to peace more quickly when I’m drained.
Going against intuition. My intuition has gotten pretty darn good in the last year. The problem is, I’ve acted from my logic-brain for so long, that I often hesitate to listen to my heart-brain. And you know what happens? It comes back to bite me. Every. Time. Though everything typically works out in the end, I’d save myself a lot of stress and overthinking if I’d just go along with what my intuition told me in the first place.
Turning to others for affirmation. Seeking affirmation or advice from others is a direct result of my resistance to trust my intuition. When I start second-guessing my instinct, I often turn to others to see what they’d do in the situation. You know what I find? More often than not, the people I turn to don’t have the tools they need to offer advice; but that doesn’t stop them from giving their two-cents when asked. Which only seems to create greater confusion for me.
Dulling myself down. I don’t always give myself permission to shine. One of the best feelings in the world is when you’re around someone who allows you to shine and to be your best self. While I always strive to be that “best self” sometimes the version I offer to others is a little dulled down. While this might make some feel more comfortable, it ultimately serves no one in the end. I think Marianne Williamson articulates this better than anyone:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
So, that’s what didn’t serve me in 2017 - here’s to leaving it behind and growing to new heights in the new year.